Center the Margins
This month we're centering the margins by having a chat with Lilet Renee, our Newsletter Committee Head. She honors her path in the LGBTQ community by sharing her psychological reflections, including an enlightening interview after. Dare to step into the margins with us...
I wanted to speak on the topic of creating our own destinies or “luck”. As I thought on this topic, I was reminded of the poem by Robert Frost: "The Road Not Taken." This poem aligned heavily with my reasonings for most of my decisions in my adult life. For those not familiar with this poem the line that stands out to me the most is the last, and I hope it puts my preamble in perspective. The line is thus, “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.”
From a young age I’ve always considered myself a “why” person, rather than someone who follows the status quo. This has shown itself in almost every aspect of my life from how I learn, interact with others, my choice of religion, and even my identity. As I further reflect on that line of the poem, I’m reminded of a question asked of me by someone close to me. “How is taking ANY road not simply a reflection of pre-destination?” I pondered that question and realized at least for me the road not taken was a metaphor for being a pioneer leaving the beaten path of conformity and blazing my own trail, creating my own story and own destiny. While taking an unbeaten path is often fraught with perils and additional challenges, all of us can find satisfaction in creating our own ”luck”.
How do you define yourself outside of stale labels?
All labels for me are subjective. Some of my favorites are: Mistress of My Own Design, The Ever-Evolving Enigma, and Rome. Why Rome? Well Rome wasn't built in a day and neither am I. 🏳️⚧️
What are common misconceptions people have about your community?
We only have to look to the world around us and current events to see how marginalized groups have been villainized as of late. We aren't the monsters under the bed! As a member of both the LGBTQ and TST communities I definitely understand and have concerns about our future. However as an ambassador of sorts for both, I'll continue to work to be a source of safety and positivity to all. 💜
What do allies struggle to understand or straight up get wrong?
Pronouns are difficult for some allies. Mine are: She, her, hers. 🙂
Can you share an experience that shaped your worldview?
As I grew up, I knew I was different and had no idea how to navigate that. As LGBTQ characters began to show up more often in media, television and movies I realized there must be an avenue for me to align my mental picture with my external presence.
Who/what has supported your community along the way?
Local social groups such as The Bay area Council for Gender Diversity and advocacy organizations such as The Human Rights campaign.
What does meaningful allyship look like to you?
My eldest child said it best when they said this: "I don't understand your situation but I respect it."
What brings you joy right now?
Social networking and outreach. I enjoy reaching out to people who I've met digitally in person. The world is on fire in a sense and knowing we aren't alone enriches me.
What are people not talking about enough?
How we can be the builders of our own destinies by researching policies of potential government candidates and commercially "voting with our wallets" by supporting companies that support our communities.
How can people support you or your community?
There are many ways people can support communities that they believe in. Show up, be seen, donate time or resources.
What message would you like readers to walk away with?
Be present, open the dialogue, hail yourselves and others. Know that you are loved and as always, AVE OMNES! <3 Lilet Renee
